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Tuesday, November 21, 2006

Kelly Anne Plummer Lester was born on January 30 th 1975. She grew up in the Briar Village Subdivision in West Houston. She attended St Agnes Catholic High School. She also attended Texas Tech University and the University of Houston. Kelly and I were married October 26, 2002.

One year ago tomorrow Kelly was diagnosed with a rare form of Liver cancer. In the last year she endured 16 rounds of chemotherapy, two unsuccessful surgeries to remove the cancer and numerous other procedures. On November 3, 2006 kelly and I went to MD Anderson for physical therapy later that evening Kelly told her family and I that she did not want to fight this battle anymore. The doctors seem to think Kelly gave in mentally to the disease only hours before her body did. She passed away 12 days later. That is how Kelly’s life ended.

But today is about something different; today is about how Kelly lived. Kelly had an enthusiasm for life that I have seen in no other. Her zeal for life cannot be summed up in words, but I will have to try. She was passionate about life, her family and friends. She lived with no regrets and believed that things should be done all or nothing. The same way she battled cancer. Her smile was radiant and her laugh contiguous. She was known for her wit and truthfulness. And all of us who knew Kelly know that sometimes to much wit and to much truthfulness, where not necessarily a good thing, but with my wife you always knew where you stood. One of the few people I know who could tell you where wrong and that she loved you in the same sentence and mean it. Kelly loved all or nothing. She loved her family and friends; she was always thinking of things that she could do for them to make their lives easier and how she could help them in any way.

Anybody who has ever been in a car with Kelly is probably surprised that cancer is what ended up taking her life. Often on the way to MD Anderson for an appointment or treatment I would joke with her “ I don’t know why we are worried cancer your going to kill us both.” As my best friends wife said, “ there is one thing you can tell about a women is that she lives her life like she drives” well then Kelly was all gas and no brakes. She told her girlfriends days before her passing that it “has been a good ride” and indeed it has.

As short as a time as Kelly and I had she made sure that our time together was well spent. She made sure that we lived. We traveled to Russia, Europe, Cape Cod, and many other destinations, we moved 3 times, we acquired 2 beautiful labs that Kelly adored, only one of which was purchased with my permission. I fill blessed to have experienced the years that I had with her. I thank god that he gave me that time.



I know so many of us will miss these wonderful things about Kelly, but as we grieve let us remember the way that Kelly lived. As cliché as it sounds Kelly would want us to go on with lives. Because that is what Kelly told me she wanted. And those of us who know her well, know what happens when you go against Kelly’s wishes. So let us not morn for Kelly today ,but celebrate her life. For Kelly is not in pain today she is with our lord and we all have a new angel in our lives. Death terminates life but it does not terminate the spirit in which a person lived. So today sometimes I want everyone who knew Kelly to close there eyes and think about the last time with her or your favorite time with her and there is no doubt in my mind that you remember the spirit of which Kelly lived. Take that moment and carry it with you always as a way to remember this beautiful woman forever and forever.

14 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Joel,

We're sorry we couldn't be there. It is beautiful- what you wrote, and I will take your advice and carry around the few memories that I have. I'll say it again, you are a stand-up guy and wish you all the peace and love you deserve.

Love,

Erin and Axel

10:58 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Joel-
My heart and prayers go out to you. The few time I saw her, she was always full of life. She worked with my husband Daniel. If it were not for her I think Daniel would have not let me keep my black lab - Rosco. She talked my husband through the training of Rosco (which wasn't always easy). To that I say "Thank You", for having such a caring and loving wife like Kelly. I was glad my husband had a friend like her to turn to. Good Bless-

11:27 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I sit here thinking of the words to try and comfort you and your family. I feel such a closeness to you and Kelly. I read your blogs very often. My brother David Hoskins is also battling this terrible cancer. It has been a little over a year since he found out, and we will continue to fight. I am sadden over your loss and I know she is in a better place. My brother often says he knows God is doing this for a reason. We may not know why here on earth, but one day, we will know. Please know our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Love
Barbie (The Hoskins family)

12:50 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Joel,

When Beth and I close our eyes, we think of Michelle's wedding and the great time we had with you and Kelly that night.

It makes us smile.

God Bless,

Patrick & Beth Hays

1:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Joel & Family,

I am very sorry for your loss.
Kelly sounds like such a wonderful woman.

My cousin Chris lost her husband, Dan, Sept. 8 of this year to cholangiocarcinoma. He was 30. It sounds like they both loved life so much and it also sounds like they drove about the same!!!
The pastor at Dan's funeral read a message entitled "W.O.T" - wide open throttle. For once Dan was diagnosed he lived more in those 23 months than most of us have lived our whole lives. It sounds like Kelly did the same. Hopefully we can all learn to appreciate the little things in life and TODAY, for tomorrow is never promised. (I read this on a caringbridge site)

I pray that you find comfort and peace in the days ahead. You wrote a very caring tribute to Kelly and I am sure she is looking down smiling at you.

God Bless you All.
Carley

7:11 AM  
Blogger Caroline Stoufer said...

Dear Joel and Family & Friends of Kelly's -

I am so heartbroken about Kelly leaving this world. Her blog gave me much inspiration. I wish I could've met her in person. I am grateful that she & Joel have been willing to post their experiences.

Joel, thank you for your tribute to Kelly. I have the same wishes when I am gone - that everyone live their life to the fullest and not waste any time being unhappy.

Kelly had a good husband as part of her short life.

Thinking of you,
Caroline Stoufer

8:03 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Joel, you started your eulogy on Monday with the fact that words could not do justice to the spirit that was Kelly. But I think you did. You truly captured her in your words and I thank you for that. Jakey, Jolie, and I have such fond memories of growing up with Kelly. And I am so thankful that she found, in you, such a wonderful mate. We will love you always for the joy and compassion that you brought into our cousin's life. Thank you.

Love,
Sandra

8:46 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

No one memory of Kelly comes to mind...it's always a flood of many moments throughout the 20 years I've been lucky enough to know her. But the moments that are the most clear, and most vivid, all come from our 20's. Sitting outside on the patio at Volcano with Joe and Mike, laughing uncontrollably. (we chased everyone away with our raunchy conversations) The crazy moving day with Brittney, Chris, and a few others, which led to beers at Texadelphia, and ended with dancing at Uropa. Kelly's signature dance move. The goofy, child-sized chair Garrett "acquired" for Kelly from the restaurant next to Two Rows. Standing in awe as she belted out "white wedding" at the bachelorette party. Her yelling at us over poorly chosen wood pieces for your wood floors, and us trying to put them down faster than she could supervise. (ok, that was the 30's) And my most favorite...planting herself on top of Dave's pink drink so she could meet you at Marty's party, Joel. I can still see her sitting there with the biggest smile on her face...

I love you, Kelly. You will always live on in my heart. I will forever miss you telling me that I'm wrong...

- Sara

9:37 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Joel,

Again let me express our heartfelt sympathies to you and the rest of Kelly's family at your loss.

Your eulogy was beautiful and truly will impact so many lives....

I chuckled about your reference to Kelly's driving. As you may recall, when we visited Houston earlier this year, Kelly was so kind to 'chaffeur' us around Houston to show us the sights! Val, my niece who is also fighting cholangio, her mom, Nancy, and me (Aunt Char), felt like we knew Kelly forever....she was so engaging. Please stay in contact with us.....we so enjoyed our dinner with you and Kelly that week. E-mail is csloan@tricorbraun.com.

Our very best to you,

Char Sloan and the McCrea family

12:43 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Joel - Brandon and I are saddened to hear the news of your wife's passing. We had hoped from reading your blog that things would turn out differently. Your eloquent description of your wife's life moved us. If there is anything that we can do for you, please do not hesitate to contact us. Though the years have passed by so quickly and we have not kept in touch, we consider you a lifelong friend. You are and will continue to be in our prayers.

Andrea and Brandon Stanley

9:16 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Joel~

We just wanted to let you know that we are thinking about you and that we are here if you need anything. Patrick would love to set up a bird hunt when you are up to it.

7:10 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

There's a special angel in heaven blowing out a candle today! Thinking of you on your birthday Kelly.

5:06 AM  
Blogger Jill said...

Dear Joel,

You or Kelly once responded to a blog written by my friend, Caroline Stoufer, who also recently died. I'm working to compile her blog into a keepsake book for her family and friends, and I was wondering if I could include your responses. I don't want the book to sound like she never had responses, that she was writing alone, and some of the responses also contain medical information that might help other people with the same cancer. Would you mind if I include the comments that your family posted to her blog? I'll certainly understand if you say no. You just let me know. I'm thinking about you very much right now. I am heartsick to learn that so many of the people who responded to Caroline's blog early on have also passed on. This is a much needed life lesson for me. Sincerely, Jill Patterson

My contact info: jill.patterson@ttu.edu. I teach at Texas Tech, and saw that Kelly went to school there.

7:27 PM  
Blogger KarenFarner said...

Hey, Joel! I was just looking through some e-mails and came across your blog address. I just want you to know that you have always been in my thoughts and prayers even though I haven't said it before now. I've seen some recent pics on FaceBook, and you look great! I've heard that you're doing great too. I'm happy for you. Gig 'em, my friend, and I hope to actually see you soon! We're due for a visit!!!
:) Karen

9:20 PM  

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